Monday, January 24, 2011

One Little Word, Endless Choices

As I found myself listening to the explanation of the "One Little Word" challenge, I instantaneously started thinking of what word I would choose to best descirbe and embody me for my final semester in high school. The first words that came to my mind seemed to be popular choices amongst my classmates, which made them lose their value in my eyes. I wanted a word that few, if any, would have. I tossed around a few words for several days, trying to pick which one I would keep. Words like "motive" and "why" were some of my favorite options. I started playing along with each one individually and trying to conceive excatly how I would make the it relate back to me. It was then that I realized, I was playing it safe and picking words that, although full of promising pyscological complexity, didn't exactly relate to me. "What is the point of picking one word if it isn't going to truly resignate with me?" I thought. I mean, if this word wasn't supposed to mean something to us on a level higher than academic, why not choose 5 words? Why not choose 10? It was with this realization that my thought process made a hard left and started speeding in the opposite direction. I slowed down my desire for "greatness" and instead focused on the "realness" of the issue. I wanted a word that had a bit of a mixed connotation, one that seemed a little fishy when it came to its intentions. A word that was so much more than what was on the surface, a word like feisty.
It was perfect. Not only had I found a word that fit me perfectly, but a word that is as strong as it is passionate. When have you EVER heard of someone meek and mild doing something in a "feisty" manner? I'm willing to guess never. To me, being fesity can be a good thing and it can be a bad thing. It's one of those words that can be stretched in every direction, and I do mean every. It has connotations that range from feline to even sexual antics. Feisty is a grey word, and can be thrown in almost anywhere to add a little pizazz. Everyone knows what the word means and I suppose everyone has their own idea about whether it's an admirable trait or not. It's probably my favorite word because I see myself in it so much. Feisty people know what they want AND they go about getting it regardless of whether you like it or not. Fesity people do everything in passion and never hover on the sidelines of indecisiveness but go full throttle into expressing themselves. I would rather be the absolutely most obnoxious and fiesty individual than be a polite and personalityless nitwit. At least I would be worth something and bringing a diverse persona to the table.
Too often do people spend their time caring about what other people want them to be, trying to mold themselves appropriately. It's such a shame that we try and hide what we are from people because it may appear unfavorable. Well, I'm over it and done trying to do what's "right." To me, the challenge of picking one word turned into the challenge of finding the most "impressive" and "honorable" word. The majority of the people who told me their words seemed to me, lazy. They took the easy way out and want to know how I know this? At least five other people from our class and the others combined shared their word. Talk about original. However, all in all I am very pleased with this challenge. It's showed me that although my word may not be the most likley to be greeted with "awww"s or "I like that!"s it has been an honest word, one that actually resembles it's chooser.
- Shelby H.

Courtesy of Peter Lik Photography


18 comments:

  1. What I like most about this topic is the challenge, the revealing of a person's true personality, and the various definitions of words. Take the word fiesty for example; it can also mean quarrelsome, aggressive, touchy, or belligerent. Now that is a curious word. Why would anyone want to be depicted in that form?Like you said it 'had a bit of a mixed connotation'.

    Why wouldn't you want to pick a word like pleasant, colorful, or joy?( some words chosen by my fellow peers)
    See,I believe this one little word acuately describes the chooser. If you are pleasant there is no room for controversy. If you are colorful that can be you are high spirited and crazy. And if you are joyful that usually means you disreguard the pessimistic objects in your life, which is not that great because you most likely disreguard reality.

    Now why wouldn't you pick a strong word like strength or surviving?
    I picked the word survival;using the definition "a living or continuing longer then other person or thing". I felt it 'fit me perfectly' because I have overcome so many obstacles in my life: death, heart ache, cruel, unjust, and hurtful name calling, and loss of friends.
    So thank you for sharing your word choice, it revealed alot about your character. And I really do like your word's connotations;it is better to have mixed feelings then none at all.
    -Vaness C.

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  3. First of all I really liked the way you described human feelings, when we have to make choices. I similarly went through the same dilemma when i had to pick my "one little word". I couldn't decide on one word because they all had some different depth to them that the others didn't have. I ended up choosing the word trust, because it is the base for all the relationships in life that we have. Last but not least I really enjoyed your picture at the bottom and your thoughts on "one little word".
    -Semarn K

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  4. I love your word choice Shelby. Knowing you personally, I laughed when I read that you chose "feisty" and realized that it really does describe you perfectly. You clearly put a lot if thought into this assignment and came to a great conclusion.
    As for my word, I also thought a lot about it and drew from my past experiences to find one that would fit me. When having difficulty with this, I decided to figure out what I wanted to improve on by the end of my senior year. Although not all that original, I ended up choosing the word "acceptance". I felt that my life could use more of this, accepting what has happened in the past and draw from those experiences to become a better person. I went through the same process you did, finding a word that would benefit me the best, and through this have already learned a lot from the "One Little Word" assignment.
    -Taylor C.

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  5. I'm pretty impressed at the cleverness you've all chosen for your words. "Feisty, survival, trust, acceptance" these are all complex words with complex depths and meanings, all different to any's own persona and experiences. I found this assignment ruthlessly difficult, for words are symbols that represent emotion. And the emotion I feel for my word, isn't the emotion any one else will receive when they read it. For example, I couldn't understand the meaning of acceptance that Taylor feels for that word, for I haven't been in the same dilemmas in the past. And to "survive" for Vanessa, I myself haven't necessarily felt survival for, I admit, have lived in a bubble these past 2 years, or how "Feisty" represents Shelby's personality, doesn't necessarily represent mine.

    What I mean to say without disapproving anyone's words, is that words are symbols, are imagery, are communication. I had an awfully difficult time choosing my word, for I took this "little" word as to define the rest of my Senior year, and having to define myself for this last bubble year I felt like it was a grave decision, so lastly I chose the word "finish". Interpret that! Ha.
    -Elish

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  6. @Vaness: I totally understand why you would think choosing a more perhaps, pleasant, word would be better. But my whole "goal" I guess you could say with my word, is to show that even though the word may have some negative aspects to it, it is a strong word and does in fact have really positive attributes to it. I'm kind of hoping to change people's opinions on the word and I guess I'll just have to see whether or not that plays out for me. I just picked a word that I feel embodies me and I don't really care whether others see that as a bad choice, obviously. At least I'm honest.

    @Semarn: Ha thank you so much! I was kind of attempting to prove that people are choosing words that could relate to almost anyone and not looking at it on a more personal level. Your rational for choosing trust is valid too, I think that that's a word that while it does relate to everyone, is strong enough for you to make your own.

    @Taylor: ha yeah you would understand why this word works well for me. I mean, the best policy is honesty and if you can't be honest about yourself even in terms of your faults, then it is my belief that you need some serious reevaluation. And as for your word, I like that you took the time to really ask what word would work for you. I didnt even think about the idea of what word you'd like to emphasize more of in your life and it seems like a really good idea. I'm sure you'll do amazing with that word :)

    @Elishba: I 100% agree with you talking about other people's words not relating to you. That's exactly what I thought the assignment should encourage, thinking outside the box!

    - Shelby H.

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  7. Well Shelby I never implied you were lying nor did I insinuate that you bold word did not embody you nor do I consider you word as a bad choice. I am simply stating that feisty has other definitions, but like you said the word fits you.
    Perhaps you honestly choosing to use a negative word to describe yourself is in fact correct.
    More power to you, Shelbster.
    -Vaness C.

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  8. Shelby, first I have to say that you are the most feisty person I know and I love it. Because of it you may not get along with absolutely everyone, but you stand up for who you are and demand that people live up to your expectations and I love and respect that about you. I love that you chose a word that honestly reflects YOU and connected it to how people feel, whether good or bad, and that you don't care which connotation people see in your word. When I was choosing my word I didn't necessarily focus on what would solely reflect on my personality, but on what I felt like I needed to accomplish in the coming year both physically and emotionally, so I chose "connect." I think your approach is interesting though and is motivating me to think of a word that would describe me that well, just for fun. :)

    -Elise P.

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  9. it takes ball to choose a word like feisty. it works because it's not melodramatic or pitiful like the word "survival" for instances. it's unique and true. there's nothing wrong with being feisty. you go gurl!

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  10. Choosing this word totally fits you girl, I dont care what people say. When I think of feisty, I think of Southern gumption which is you head on! You are witty and firey and this word really will help you discover who you are and what you want to do with what the future presents you.
    <3 Keana

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  11. I of course love that you choose the word "feisty" even though in reality it was probably the first word that came into your head. But that really just makes the word a stronger choice for you. However I don't see "feisty" as being any sort of negative connotation for you. I see it more than just making you a go-getter, I think it speaks to your clever, playful personality and your ability to take assignments like these to a more personable level and not treat it like the holier-than-thou opportunity to choose ostentatious, pseudo-impressive words that it wants to be taken as.
    -Bobby

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  12. Shelby, I think your word is absolutely perfect for you! I don't think of it negatively for you at all. In fact, in association with you, I connect fiesty with strength and the fact that you're a "go-getter" as Bobby said. You know what you want, you're confident, you're quick wit exemplifies your boldness, and you don't let anything knock you down. I truly envy your fiesty qualities! I think you owned this assignment, girl!
    As for me, I chose humor for my word because it is one of the ways that I connect with people. I also feel it really highlights my senior year and my time at Los Osos because my fondest memories are the ones filled with laughter and inside jokes. To me, humor equals happiness and can shine the brightest of light on the gloomiest of situations. It's what makes life fun! :)
    -Hillary D.

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  13. Let me just say first of all that i really enjoyed reading this post; your writing is fun and honest and kept me entertained and inrerested. Also, you are so right about the process of choosing a word, because that's exactly how i felt at first - the need to pick a flashy word just to impress others. And your word definitely describes who you are! :P

    --Dayna M.

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  14. I'm glad to see that you went outside the box of normal words and decided to choose a bold word such as fiesty! Rather than choosing a long, dramatic word, you chose a short, meaningful word that may have have a great role play on your final semester in high school. Great word choice!

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  15. @Elise: I'm glad you enjoyed my word choice and can truly understand how important honesty is to me. You're right to say that I may not get along with everyone because I certainly don't. I don't believe in being "fake" and I'm proud to say that I'm always upfront. I don't play games, I don't hide behind lies or choose to NOT voice my opinion simply for the sake of avoiding confrontation. Clearly, I'm not afraid of controversy and I believe that it is out of controversy that I have grown to be the strong individual I am. One should not go through life without standing up for what they believe in, even if it loses them a few friends along the way. On a final not, I'm glad I inspired you to think of a word that describes you :)

    @Dragon Fist Bandits: Your post made me laugh! I'm happy some one understands my annoyance with all of these words that people are choosing based on their desire to sound impressive. I don't know what it is about people wanting to attack others for being different. I guess it all revolves around the little ole word "insecure"?

    @Keana: You're too nice! I could only be so lucky as to possess "Southern gumption". But your kind words mean a lot and I'm so happy you're behind me despite what other people think. That's a true friend <3

    @Bob: Yet another person who understands the complexity of my word choice. It's more than a word, but a multitude of words really. "Feisty" brings to mind a multitude of feelings, images, and perceptions. That's why WE like the word so much :)

    @Hillary: I love your word choice! It shows what is important to you and that you understood the assignment. Laughter is something that we overlook a lot of the time. We crave and enjoy it, but on a subconscience level. I think that we generally tend to gravitate towards those who make us laugh without really realizing it. Sure, we may view people as "funny" but we don't necessarily understand the importance that laughter plays in building relationships. You bond with people over their sense of humor. I can't think of two people who are friends who don't appreciate one another's sense of humor. You picked a fantastic word and I admire your easy going disposition and the fact that you're such a nice person to everyone who deserves it :)

    @Dayna: I'm glad you enjoyed my writing style because I was indeed being very honest aha. And it's reassuring to know that another person seems to agree with my word and know that I'm not living in some little bubble where my opinions about myself are far from the truth :)

    @Blue Penguins: Thank you for the compliment! My goal was definitely to go "outside the box" I must admit. I intend to remain feisty throughout my remaining few months in high school :)

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  16. I agree that something more meaningful and less dramatic is always the way to go. That is the motto that I stuck to when choosing my word, shine! Great post!

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  17. As your personal stalker I must agree that you are in fact a fiesty person. haha. But it is very good that you narrowed your great personality into one word that is so fitting.
    - Jacob S.

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  18. I have to say I love your word choice. You took a different approach to this than most others did and it shows. Great job.

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